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Long Distance Relationship (first missing)

When you miss someone in real life is that you miss all things remind you about the other side, real life missing is when you stay some days alone maybe or not talk to that person because he go somewhere or something like that but in Long Distance Relationship missing meaning is different , specially if both sides never saw eachother ! this is really unbelieveable right , but I’m proudly say that this is true , yes true that we felt missing we still never see eachother in real life or even through video call yet we still talking about the small chatting box.

our first missing words where like kidding but it was each other feeling, we are not sure if this is really missing each other but real-life felt it unbelievable, I’m proudly saying

 

Seems to be funny right, ya well who read that maybe will say we are acting like kids but this is going to be like that before arriving in video calls

but until now we didn’t know how the love of escaping makes us really really thinking about our obligation to meet in real life and construct our life by our selfs. so keep reading next because we are going to reveal how Backpackerlampung love story began.


Long Distance Relationship (first promeses)

To be honest with you , there is no successfull relation without trust, honest, and promeses . and this is what our relation based on mostly.

I can’t tell all our promises in just few line but I would say that the power of trust that we get until now will be really good enaugh allowing as to move toward a good relationship , we where not used to fighting anymore because we really really believe that there is not any relation without misunderstanding and conflicts but the good ones are whos able to handle thier troubles by thier selves and with discussion and understanding, we shouldnt close our mind in our own ideas and force it but we should understand the other side to the maximum ..

And most of the times promises was attached to future plans may be right, so our plans are very simple, kind and we don’t ask much from each other we just want to build our own family in a good way in safe and peace , spent our favorite time in Traveling , yes Traveling was our first motivation to establish our future to spent our time together even if we want to have a stable family and kids but we never thought to stop traveling, I know some people they never even have kids if they spent their lives in discovering the world they are even changing their way of life, but sorry for the word some people they don’t even have a life they just spent it all in traveling .

but we never wanted to leave our life because we wanted to build it together from zero and wanted to discover the world as much as we can without neglect our life.

And these promises will never gonna be true if we didn’t meet in real life, do you know this really makes a feeling of fire inside, hh you must try it right .

At this time we didnt wanted to lose eachother anymore even we still we didnt know eashther much but I dont know why we where acting like this .


Long Distance Relationship (first virtual appreciations)

In order for us to make our relationship successful, after the first few days we trying to know more about our hobbies our favorite things and in reality we are trying to find what kind of habits or acts or even small stories or let me say points of view that we are sharing some ideas about like beliefs, traditions, routines or even physical.

we where always asking many and many questions every time and the answer should be honest and at that time we are trying to move on from the small chatting box , because we already spent about two months or more in that box and we didn’t even saw each other even we didn’t send any pictures to each other anymore because what ? because we are used to be from some religion, ” Muslim ” . 

It was difficult at the very first days to talk about this thing you know , but we are trying to know each other as much as we can until feeling peace of mind about another side and get even a small kind of trust yes this is it trust should begin from the chat box not after seeing each other so for this thing and without we are planned to , we begin our relation promises , I remember that every time we want to speak about things that make us approaching each other and trust each other more and more .

and in another side of the virtual appreciations is that to talk about all kind of stuff and personal things that we have in this virtual world and see if we are really really sharing some things or not and then we are really really proud that not all but most of our virtual life is the some,

Ok let me explain what I mean, for example I was nerd geek about the web in general and much other stuff and then I find her sharing with me some hobbies, Backpackerlampung is her website and I always trying to know more because I really begin doubting and asking my self every time : ” does shes really my geek girl one day omg I can’t believe ” hh funny right .

I remember that I look like a hacker to her, because every time if I wanted to know any virtual info about her I easily can get, she was shocking, how I can get that without she ever talk to me about.

Anyway, mybe this is was our very first words in trust, the trust that we will not gonna harm each other and allows as to thinking about promises in next articles, stay tuned!


Long Distance Relationship (first days)

Isn’t Like in all kind of relations through the internet or real life anymore ! my first days was begin in VK chat box we are used to talking commonly about few minutes per day maybe half hour or less, and it was all first messages are about curiosity to know more about the other side.

we used to talk about her stories with her friend that was life in Palestine, I remembered that I hate to talk about that things but I was happy when she said she got tired and she wanna sleep hh maybe because she was talking much and I was spent most of my time surfing the net looking for interesting stuff in the net you know .. but we didn’t get habit fast about our time difference, we are so much far away Lampung Indonesia is 6 hours ahead of Tunisia so when she wakes up in the morning I already put my head on the pillow in order to sleep  ..

because she always complaining about the time hh

But we were never thinking that this is a problem or something unless it makes us like sacrifice to each other , huh what a sacrifice , ya well sacrifice in time mean to change your lifestyle, habits, and routines if you really wanted to succeed the relation.. in the upcoming article we will continue our story, in order to success the relation I will explain more about our true experience behind our Long Distance Relationship


Long Distance Relationship

Long Distance Relationship was my motivation

Long distance relationship was my first motivation to escape from my stressed life. I spent most of my life study like anyone but I was thinking always to get lost somewhere, with whom? by my self, I don’t want!

I have been neglecting this idea for a long time I m not even go outside much for backpacking or camping outside because I just want to focus with my study, the study was very cool I get good grades and marks I finally get my Master degree I know many friends but I never wanted to have a girlfriend or even through if I try to have I never success or even though about family and kids anymore, but  I used to be nerd, I like internet so freaking much, it was my life that I spent in …

about seven years ago, when I was 17 I get to know an Indonesian Girl in social media I stayed with her about two years but in the end, the relation was broken down and I honestly I didn’t want to talk about this much, maybe because it was one of the biggest faults in my life …

but after a while , when I was surfing on VK  I suddenly get attracted by a very simple profile picture , I don’t know until now why I clicked on that one, not another why I get curious to read the profile history, at that time was just a short parts of story and statuses in the profile timeline.  I read it, I like it. I say to my self  just send a message to express my feeling no more so I remember I was sent like this :

long distance relationship

long distance relationship first message

only like this! I didn’t mean anything behind at that time I even m not put any pictures of mine or another side, I even I’m not sure if that profile gender lol but it seems to be the girl I just understand from her timeline story …

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